You can still gradually get to know them, but you'll have to accept it will to be a longer-term project. If you really hit it off with someone, consider asking for their contact information that day or message them on the site after. That way you don't have to count on running into them again. Some groups have a core of regulars who keep to themselves This is the opposite problem to the one above. Some groups have an established clique that isn't that welcoming to outsiders.
They may not intend to come across that way. It's just that they know each other and prefer to stick together. Again, realize not all groups are like this. Also, know this can be a problem in any social setting, not just meet ups.
Next, accept it may just not work out with this particular group though maybe in a few months it will have fresh faces. However, you may be able to make it work for you.
You could go to a few more events and let the regulars get used to you. You could also focus on getting to know other newcomers, and let the regulars do their own thing. You may enjoy talking to some people you've seen at a few of a group's events, but when you ask if they'd like to hang out outside of a meet up they look at you funny.
Know not everyone thinks this way. Also ask yourself if you could accept only seeing those people at meet ups if you like their company otherwise. It's a bit limiting, but not the worst thing ever. Once more, this doesn't happen at every event. Also, with practice you can get to a point where you're comfortable at meet ups , and can even be the relaxed veteran that helps the newbies feel at ease.
Not true. Meet ups are attended by all types. Most are regular people who either want to add some new blood to their social circle, recently moved to the area, or want to take part in a particular activity. There's nothing odd or shameful about wanting to be sociable or make more friends. Yes, some meet up attendees are what you could call awkward, but you may run into a shy person at a house party or volunteer position too. Naturally, I reject the idea that just because someone is a bit awkward that they're a bad person who taints a social event for everyone else.
If you go to a meet up and you come across someone who's not your type of person, because they're "weird" by your standards, just socialize with someone else instead. And even if mostly everyone at an event is too "weird" for you, it doesn't automatically mean all meet ups are like that. If an attendee is "awkward" to the point where they make others feel creeped out or threatened, many group organizers will be willing to deal with it if you bring the matter to their attention.
Some single people go to meet ups to hopefully find someone to date, and rate the events entirely through that lens. Of course, just because a get together isn't good as a meat market doesn't mean it won't be useful for someone who wants to make friends. Unfortunately women can run into creeps everywhere, and Meetup. Upon joining the site and creating a profile, a woman may get some inappropriate or overeager messages from other members. Once she attends a meet up all her attention may be taken up by single guys who want to chat to her, when she'd prefer to get to know some other women.
The main way to get around this problem is to join women-only groups. On the site you can adjust your message and privacy settings so it's harder for randoms to contact you.
Creating a profile with a non-descript photo can also keep the hoards at bay. If someone is really out of line you can also report them to the site or the group's organizer. If you're curious about it, why not give Meetup. If you give it an honest shot and you find it's not for you, that's fine. At least now you know. But please go to more than a handful of events before deciding it doesn't work. Any single get together may not be to your taste, but they're not all like that. Overall, you don't need every meet up you attend to go perfectly.
If you go to seven and they're busts, then meet a great group of friends at the eighth, then I'd say it was all worth it. A final thought. It can be discouraging to attend a bunch of meet ups and not have them go anywhere. You may long for an easier way to make friends, like meeting people at your job or school classes.
The thing is more-traditional ways of meeting people aren't any more efficient if you think about it. Many people have made friends at work or school, but most didn't show up to their first class or shift and come away with a group of buddies.
They may have been at a new job for a few months, chatting to their co-workers here and there, before they felt close enough to hang out with them after work. In university they may have had classes where all semester they just grabbed their seat, took some notes, then got up and left without speaking to anyone. If you look at work or school in terms of Hours Spent There vs. Friends Made they don't do well. It's just that with school and work we're there for other reasons, so we're not super concerned with how quick or effective those places are for forming a social circle.
But if you go to a meet up primarily to make friends, and it's so-so, then it can feel like a disappointing waste of time. But even if it takes a while, you're not losing that many hours in the larger scheme of things. Seriously, one of the dinners I went to was located in an alley.
I would have never found it just walking down the street. It was a hidden gem that ended up having the best gourmet burgers ever! Some day I hope to be a seasoned expat to show someone else the hot spots of Shanghai.
Attending a Meetup group can be a little scary at first. You can not go to a Meetup, sit in the corner, and not speak to anyone. No one is going to approach or take part in this behavior. Many groups have ice breaker activities that will help but you should always have some ammunition under your belt just in case.
One of the Meetup groups I regularly attend has a rule; the first hour you can not discuss what you do. This rule is a great way of encouraging us to talk about something besides work and finding other questions to get to know one another. It helps us connect on a different level and discuss our passions. Avoid the boring questions what do you do and where are you from?
Without being face-to-face, meetup events can feel a little impersonal. You can avoid this disconnect by focusing on online meetup groups that use video conferencing. This can help you to maximize your online meetup group experience overall, and possibly help you get your foot in the door for your first entry-level job.
School helps with preparing you for your career and the real world in many ways. It teaches responsibility, how to meet deadlines, the importance of punctuality and meeting your obligations, and other essential principles.
In a way, joining online meetup groups teaches these same skills , and can go a step further. This can all prepare you for your first job, as it gives you an idea of what it will be like to work with others and what it means to be part of a team. As you start off in your new career, you will generally find that you have two options: working for another company, or working on your own as a freelancer and finding clients.
Typically, individuals just starting off in a new industry will gain a few years of experience before deciding to freelance, but not always. These days, more and more individuals, including new graduates and those who are newly certified, are deciding that working as a freelancer, or even starting their own small business or consulting firm, is the best decision for them.
From programming and web design, to data science or project management , just about every tech role these days can also lead to excellent opportunities — freelance or not.
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